Demand or ask?

My husband can ask me anything he likes--get him a drink, run an errand etc. He asks politely and has good manners, and says thank you, too. That is not a demand. I can ask him to do little things for me, just as politely. We use good manners.

I can say no, if for some reason I can't do the thing asked, such as run an errand when my schedule is full.

I have no problem serving my husband in many ways, even if it is something he can do himself. Perhaps he is tired etc. I also serve my children in ways that make them happy, and even friends who are visiting our home. My service is freely given because I love these people.

He is the head of the household, I'm his wife. I'm not an employee or a servant. It is our marriage, our family, our home, as in a partnership.

I don't see where 'demands' for service would enhance this relationship or make me a more loving wife, or him a better husband.